So today I want to talk about a situation that Kaid had to experience.

Kaid was told by his mom in October that if he wanted to live with us he could. He opted to wait until school was out before making the custody change. Since then it has been her telling us what she expects us to do in order for Kaid to come and live with us. I understand as a mother you want to make sure that your child will be taken care of. However, it has gotten to the point that she will find any reason to not allow him to make the change.

Two weeks ago they(the ex and her new husband) sat him down and asked him if he would talk with them. He was so excited thinking that they were finally going to listen to him. He found out shortly that was not the case. When they asked him what he wanted they quickly told him that they think that Jeremy and I are forcing Kaid to make the decision to live with us. When Kaid tried to defend his dad, his step dad tells him not to defend his dad that he doesn't know him and what he put his mother through. So Kaid asks what he did to her. She tells him that he disrespected her and didn't treat her very well. He tells them that he isn't the same person that his dad had changed. His step dad tells him that Kaid doesn't know his dad and that he ruined his moms life. When Kaid tries to defend his dad again, his step dad picks up the babies walker and throws it across the room. Kaid was kept in the house until we picked him up on Friday.

I am not sure why his step dad felt that it was not only his place, but his responsibility to alienate Kaid from his dad. This is called parental alienation. Not only that but they are disparaging his father in front of him. That in and of itself is contempt.

Why would they insist on hurting Kaid like that? What do they gain from making him choose them. We have told Kaid many times that no matter what he decides, we will love him and that we will continue to see him as much as possible.

We are not perfect and I would not pretend that we are. We are honest with him though. We let him know where we stand. This weekend I asked him if his mom wanted to try and have a relationship with him what would he do. He told me that if she wanted to and made the effort he would try, but he didn't see why he had to make the effort first. He already had a mom that he loved and that loved him. My heart broke. I am so happy that he loves me and knows that I love him, but his mother is his mother and every child should have a relationship with their mom.