Being silly with my Baby!

This is a special time of year for Jeremy and I. We met January 25th 1996, we were married December 27th and were Sealed for Time and all Eternity on December 23rd. There are many opportunities for us to think about our relationship and how it has grown. I often think back to that first conversation on the phone. I hoped it would be something special. We had made plans to go out the next night. I had a few extra minutes while getting ready for work and I knew that I would not have a lot of time after work to "primp", so I curled my hair and put on my cute clothes and made sure that I would pretty much be ready to go after work. While at work, my roommate Kerri and I , noticed this cute black guy walk in the door. I have always been attracted to African Americans and so this was a treat for me! Funny thing is when he walked in, I told my roommate "I'm going to have that mans babies". Damned if that didn't happen. LOL!

 He walked over past all of us and was looking at the magazines. I got a customer and she had a huge cart full of groceries (I worked at Allen's Grocery Store). Amazingly, this gorgeous man stepped into my line. Kerri told him that she could help him (without a wait) and he said it was ok. He had a pack of gum! I have never scanned or bagged groceries so fast. Her order was $254.36, I still remember! When I got her out of the way, he walked up. I noticed he had a Letterman's jacket on and the name was Jerry. I was kind of hoping he was my date, but knew at that moment he was not. I rang him up and as he was leaving I turned to get a peek....heheheheh....and then he quickly turned back to me...I was caught. I just looked at him and smiled. He then said the words that would put our whole life together in motion..."By the way, I'm Jeremy"! I about died.

J&T during the blackout at the MMHS FB game 2012

 He picked me up that evening and we went to dinner, Burger King, I know big spender! Then he had a basketball game. It was so much fun to watch him and experience that side of him. The rest is history, but that is how we met.

J&T Fall 2012

All of this would not have been possible if not for a very dear friend. David, my best friend, met Jeremy and thought it would be a good idea for us to meet. I am forever grateful to you David for leading me to my Soul Mate. You have always had a special place in my heart.

Looking back.......

Boys 2012

It has been a while since I have posted anything and a good friend of mine has "encouraged" me to blog more often. I am up to the challenge. With some, well ok, a lot of help from her, I feel more comfortable doing so. Here it goes....

Kaid

The last few months I have really been looking at our beautiful family. In doing so, I have realized just how "grown up" our kids are. It seriously feels like yesterday I was changing diapers and cleaning spit up off my shoulder. Now, Kaid graduates in a few months and Jordan is driving!!!! Malikk is itching to start driving, Dunchan will be entering high school (9th grade) and Ty is almost done with Elementary school. Time has flown by!!!! I have been looking at pictures of them when they were younger and it helps me to accept the fact that they are not my little boys anymore. But then I wondered....what do I do now?

Dunchan

Jeremy

Tyreese

Jordan

Jeremy and I have starting taking time for ourselves so as to not be surprised when all the sudden we are empty nesters. Date night is time for us to enjoy each other and friends that we ask to join us. Movies, good food and friends, what a great way to reconnect. I would suggest it to all of the couples out there. Date your spouse!!!!! Take the time to remember why you fell in love and what you miss most about them. I have found a very loving, sensitive, supportive, funny, chivalrous man. I knew I hit the jackpot when I found Jeremy, but I didn't know how "rich" I really was until we started Dating again. Your kids will grow faster then you can imagine and will leave you wondering what you do now. Get a head start on that so that you don't have that experience. Until next time....enjoy these pictures of my "little" ones.

Boys Winter 2004

Malikk!

 

Usual Fall Saturday

Today started early, at 5:45 am Jeremy woke me up so that we can start getting the kids up and going. We laid in bed until 6:00 am and then finally started moving. And true to form the day took off.

Jordan's game(in Springville) was exciting, as usual, and ended in a win. He likes to play fast and mean, and was called on 5 penalties.

Then it was off to Dunchans game in Salem. He did really good and makes us so proud every time he gets on the field.

Then rush back to Springville to Malikk's game. WOW, talk about drama. He was facing another Springville team and the rivalry was strong. The refs blew two very important calls and everyone was emotional. I have lost my voice from screaming, mainly at the refs. After the game Jeremy was trying to get Malikk so we could go and the coach asked him to stay and Jeremy had enough. He jumped at the coach and they started yelling at each other. The rest is history.

Jeremy was able to fix the freeze plug on the truck. We drove home and Jeremy took the truck to put gas in it. He got home and the truck died. Here we go again, right. Nope, he forgot to plug the alternator back in. HAHAHAHA!!! The truck is working and everyone is happy!!!

That sums it all up. Have a great night!!!

On Call Week

Hello everyone,

We have almost made it through another on call week. Only one more day and we get to see Jeremy again. He works so hard for our family and he never feels like it is enough. We all appreciate and love him so much.

I start my new job at Namifiers on Monday, and I can't wait. I finally get to get back to REAL customer service. We will be able to start saving money again and we are hoping to take a vacation next summer to Alaska. We will see.

Football this week was rather slow. It was a JV week which means that none of the boys were able to play. JV is a game where the kids that don't normally get a lot of playing time get to be the starters. Saturday is chuck full of games though. Also we get Kaid tomorrow, so we will have a great weekend.

Jordan was invited to apply for the People to People Ambassadors program. We had the meeting last night. I was stunned that this program, which was began by Pres. Eisenhower, gets no funding from the government at all and is really expensive. Jordan told me "It's ok mom, I have no time anyway. With football and basketball, I just couldn't do it." I am so blessed to have such great understanding children. I have no doubts that he will be able to see the world one day.

I am making homemade bread and chicken noodle soup for dinner, and the bread is ready to be put in the oven. So long for now!!

With love,
Williams clan

Dawn of a new day!!

Today we decided that we wanted to blog about something fun. So we changed the format of our blog. There will be lots of updates on our family including pictures and videos. We will tell you the fun, sad, upsetting and downright wrong things that are going on with us. We will keep you informed as to when the boys play a game or have an activity. We will let you know when, God willing, we finally get Kaid here. We hope that you will come back often to hear the newest. We love you and God bless.

The Williams

OK so I think that I need to switch gears. Initially, I wanted to start a dialogue for stepparents. I think that I turned into a ranter. Sorry.

There are times when I feel so alone while dealing with this. I don't know many stepparents and the ones that I do know don't feel the way that I do. Most don't look at their step children as their children. There are some that think of the kids as just an extra mouth to feed on the weekend. I think of my stepson as my son. But you already know that.

The feeling of helplessness can be overwhelming. There are times I want to throw in the towel. My son is what keeps me going. I could never let his mother take me out of his life. I try to be neutral but it is hard when your hand is forced by actions of the other parent. I want to make changes in not only the laws, but with the way that people think. It is so important that the parents remember that the child sees it even if they think they are doing and saying things when the kids are not around. Body language is louder then words.

Anyway, I guess that is enough for today. Talk to you soon.

OK so a lot has happened since I was on here last. Kaid was upset a few weeks ago when we were getting ready to take him home. We asked him what he was so pissed off at. He told us that he didn't want to go home. Of course my heart breaks knowing that there is nothing that we can do about it. Jeremy talked to him about him standing up for himself and telling her that he is going to live here. So he decided he was going to confront her. That is huge. He never wants to cause conflict. He was able to stay an extra night to prepare himself for this "intervention" of sorts. The next day we head down and Jeremy walked with him up to the house. Kaid was able to get his mom outside to talk so that his dad was there to support him. Guess what happened! You guessed it. She started yelling at Jeremy and telling him that he is just Kaid's playmate and that he doesn't know what is best for Kaid. Jeremy told her that this was about Kaid not him. Kaid tried to get her attention by telling her that it wasn't about her or his dad. It was about him. She again started attacking Jeremy's character and his role as a father. She told him that he is only there when it is fun. PAUSE: Time for a rewind. Kaids baptism, we were living in California at the time and called to ask her when it would be. She told him that she would let us know. Of course no information. We missed it. Kaid being ordained a Teacher, we told Kaid that we wanted to be there. He wanted his dad to do the blessing. Did we know when and where? Nope. They called him into the Bishops office after church without him knowing why and ordained him. He didn't know that he could tell them no. His Jr. High graduation, we did make it to that. However, we had to investigate it and get the information ourselves. That is her job. She is responsible to let us know when there are things going on like that. The graduation was easy for us to find info on, but the church stuff is not that easy. I even called the Bishop about his baptism and asked for him to give us the info and he didn't return my call. PLAY:So now Kaid is trying to get her attention, Jeremy is trying to ignore her and her husband comes outside and gets in Jeremy's face telling him to get off their property. Jeremy ignored him, but soon realized that they were not going to listen and that it could get out of hand. So he grabbed Kaid around the waist and pulled him away so that he could tell him good bye. Kaid was resistant and really wanted her to listen to him. When they got to the car, Kaid tried to get into the car to leave with us. Jeremy tells him that he can't. We have to do it right.I was crying in the car knowing what was going to happen when we left. I can't understand how a mother can disregard her child so easily. Needless to say Kaid was locked in the house again. He would sneek out of the house and go to his uncles house to call Jeremy every night so that we knew he was ok. Moral of the story: If you have a child with someone, please realize you are not the only one in that child's life. There is another parent. If that other parent wants to be a part of the child's life let them. These kids are going though enough without the parents complicating it more. Emotions are easy to take over in a situation like this believe me. I wanted nothing more then to get out of the car and yell at her to listen to her son. Ultimately we have to be the ones to set an example. The step parent is just a soft place to fall when everything else gets crazy.